Disclosing your affair might not make your partner feel better. If you want to tell your partner about a one-time act of infidelity to make them feel better, that gesture could be misplaced. According to Nelson, someone who feels guilty for cheating is usually better off keeping the affair under wraps.

There are many paths to recovering from infidelity, and many couples are able to look back at the affair as a time that facilitated tremendous growth in their relationship. Sometimes, it helps shine a light on problems in the marriage, or opens up a dialogue about sex and intimacy.

If one of the person's involved in a one night stand had agreed to be faithful and exclusive to another person, then they are cheating. It is the couple (or more) who decide for themselves what the rules are in their relationship. Cheating is breaking a promise to another person, whatever that promise was.

According to a study, couples are 12% more likely to cheat on their partner after consuming alcohol. In a survey, heavy drinkers were 30% more likely to report having cheated on their partners. In a survey, 37% of men who had cheated said that alcohol was the main factor in their indiscretion.