Men are just as vulnerable to falling in love after the first sex as women – they may be even more so because women are pickier.”

There are many paths to recovering from infidelity, and many couples are able to look back at the affair as a time that facilitated tremendous growth in their relationship. Sometimes, it helps shine a light on problems in the marriage, or opens up a dialogue about sex and intimacy.

At certain points in their lives, some people may also find that catching feelings after one night stands is inevitable, which can lead to painful patterns.

But when is the right time to come clean? Whether it's a drunken one night stand or a full blown affair, experts say there's only one way to deal with the consequences if you still want to be with your partner – keep it to yourself.